How To Improve People Skills By Mastering Charm

If you want to improve your people skills, one quality stands out as far more important than others.
Do you know what this quality is?
This quality is charm.
Charm is the ability to create extraordinary rapport with anyone, and make him or her feel truly exceptional in your presence.
You might think that you need to be born with charm, but although some people seem to come by it naturally, charm is something that you can learn.
No matter how skilled, smart, or experienced you may be, most of your ability to succeed at anything depends on your ability to win people over, to convince them, to charm them.
It is important to note that the deepest craving of human nature is the need to feel valued and valuable.
Therefore, the secret of charm and improving your people skills is to make others feel important.
The more important you make people feel in your presence the more charming they will perceive you to be.
In this video, I discuss the key to improving people skills:

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What are People Skills?

People skills are your ability to accept, appreciate, and admire others on a personal or professional level. Good people skills also extend to your ability to listen and empathize with others, as well as work towards common goals with others.

How to Improve People Skills By Mastering Charm

There are what I like to call, the 5 A’s to mastering charm. Learning these can empower you with the ability to charm anyone you meet.

(1) Acceptance

The greatest gift you can give other people is the attitude of “unconditional positive regard.” That is, you accept them in their entirety, without limitation. The best way to express complete acceptance is simple.
You smile!
When you smile with happiness at seeing people, their self-esteem jumps automatically. They feel important and valuable and they like the person who is making them feel this way.

(2) Appreciation

You can show your appreciation by saying “thank you” on every occasion, for any large or small reason. You make a habit of thanking everyone in your world from everything they do.
Thank your secretary for her work. Thank your spouse for his help. Thank your children for anything they do that you appreciate. Whenever you smile or say thank you to another person, not only does that person’s self-esteem and feeling of importance jump, but so does yours.
You actually like yourself more every time you do or say anything that causes other people to like themselves more. And the more you like yourself, the more you will genuinely like and care about others and the less concerned you will be about whether you are making a good impression, making your charm even more natural.

(3) Approval

All humans have a deep subconscious need for approval.
For this reason, giving approval or praise to others often will make them feel wonderful about themselves, and they will find you to be more interesting, perceptive, highly likable, and extremely charming.

(4) Admiration

When you give people a genuine, sincere compliment about a trait, possession, or accomplishment, they automatically feel better about themselves.
They feel acknowledged and recognized. They feel valuable and important. Compliment a person on an article of clothing, on a trait like punctuality or persistence, or on an award they’ve won.
Compliment for small things as well as large.

(5) Attention

Attention is perhaps the most important quality of charm. It is the most powerful behavior for building rapport and is the key to instant charm.
When you pay close attention to other people, the more valuable and important they will feel they are.
If someone wants to talk to you, immediately discontinue all other activities and give that person your entire attention. Listen as if you are transfixed by what they are saying and then take a moment to pause before replying, rather than jumping in as soon as they take a breath. This shows that you actually heard the person, not only what they said but what they meant.

If you practice the 5 A’s you will be a more charming person and improve your people skills almost immediately.

Source: http://www.briantracy.com/blog/personal-success/improve-your-people-skills/

4 Tips to Nail Your Interviews Every Time & Get the Job of Your Dreams

4 Tips to Nail Your Interviews Every Time

Take a second to think about your dream job. Did you think about the job you are currently in right now?

If you are in a job you don’t like and want to change it, or are looking to launch your career in something new, then you have to know how to properly prepare for a job interview.

As it happens, I have done complete programs and one-day seminars on this very subject.

Today I want to share four tips on exactly what you can do to nail job interviews every time and land your dream job.

First of all, think about yourself and think about what it is you can do really well. Make a short list of those things so that you can mention them while in the interview.

Now that you’ve figured out what you want to do, and what you’re good at, let’s talk about the tips:

(1) Don’t Be Late

A successful job interview starts from the minute you walk in the door, so don’t be late.

It’s actually a rule of business to never hire someone who arrives late for an interview, that’s just standard.

So be punctual, maybe even a little early, to set the tone of the interview in the right direction from the very start.

(2) Dress Properly

Now that you’re in the waiting room, on time, let’s talk about what you’ve decided to wear.

As we all know, first impressions are very important. You need to make sure that you are dressed appropriately for the position you are applying for.

It’s always better to be over-dressed, rather than under-dressed.

Don’t pull something out of the hamper that you wore the other day, with wrinkles and stains on it. Wear something that demonstrates your professionalism and exudes confidence.

It’s absolutely astonishing how many people dress poorly for an interview and then they wonder why the interviewer loses interest.

(3) Do Your Homework

If you have a prospective company that you are looking at or that is looking at you, do your homework. Do all the research that you possibly can.

These days, every company and employer has a website. Go on the website and read everything they have.

They’ll tell you about their products and their services, their background and their history, their key people and their place in the market.

When you go in to see the prospective company for the first time, you should already know everything there is to know about the company.

The rule for this is: never ask a question if the information is available somewhere else. Referencing what you already know about the company in your answers is an excellent way to impress a boss.

Going to an interview equipped with information will allow you to feel more confident. This will be evident to your interviewers and anyone you meet at the company.

(4) Present Ideas for the Future.

During your research prior to your interview, you may come across some ideas where you think this business can be improved.

One of the most powerful statements you can say in an interview is:

“I believe I have some ideas by which this business can be greatly improved, and I would like to help improve this business.”

People love to hear that. They love to hear that you have ideas for the future of the company and for yourself.

And then ask the person, “Where is this business going?” “What are my chances and possibilities here?” And, “If I work really, really hard, what kind of a future can I look forward to?”

By asking these questions and making these statements, you take control of the interview and demonstrate your interest in the position.

It shows that you are a forward thinker, and that you have your future, and the future of the company in the forefront of your mind.

And there you have it. Always be punctual, always be well-presented, always be prepared, and take control of the interview.

Before we wrap up, I’d like to leave you with a thought to share with your friends and followers:

“If you want to land the job of your dreams, always be punctual, well-presented, prepared and in control” @BrianTracy 

Source: http://www.briantracy.com/blog/business-success/4-ways-to-get-your-dream-job/